Archive for October, 2010

Environments – Part 8 – The Network Environment

Thank you for sticking with me this far. I hope by now you are getting a greater awareness of the environmental influences on your life and a greater appreciation for how great a an influence they have on our life choices and attitudes. This times discussion is on the Network Environment. This environment consists of your customers or clients, your social networks both on-line and in person, your memberships in organizations and your partners and alliances.

Some of the considerations to ponder when evaluating how well your network environment is supporting your life and your goals include how well your network responds to your requests for help and assistance. Is the support one sided or do you and your network share referrals and information regularly? For networks to really work there needs to be a goodly degree of mutuality otherwise one side will feel sucked upon and resentments will grow and destroy the network relationship.

Whereas the personal environment will tend to have people who reflect your thinking, attitudes and lifestyle, the network environment, if cultivated well, is the place to be exposed to interesting and diverse opinions, cultures, experiences and backgrounds. A great network environment will serve as both a supportive one for your businesses and, with the exposure to new ideas, cultures, outlooks and novel ways of doing things, can be a catalyst for personal growth.

An important and often overlooked part of this environment is that of your clients and customers. Are these folks ones that you like to work with, that inspire you to do your best work or are they people you dread to deal with or bore you to death? If it is the later, your business life will be a chore rather than a joy that you look forward to. Michael Port, in his great book, “Book Yourself Solid,” introduced the concept of having a “Red Rope Policy.” Just like in the nightclub, where the Red Rope keeps the boring people out of that environment, having one in your business where you screen out or refer out clients you would rather not deal with, will greatly increase your level of enthusiasm where you look forward to going to work.

That was a long way of asking if you are tolerating people in this environment. The fewer the tolerations, the more supportive this environment will be in your life.

If you have questions or comments, please post them in the comments section. I am looking forward to a lively discussion here on the blog.

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Environments – Part 7 – The Personal Relationship Environment

We are going to get personal in this installment of the Environment series. This environment is all about family, close friends and colleagues -The Personal Relationship Environment. This one is not only personal; it is quite critical to growth and success. The mantra of “The Environment Always Wins!” is especially true when it comes to relationships. The clichés of “You are as good as the company you keep” and a quaint country version of it, “If you sleep with pigs, you end up smelling like pig sh*t!” are based on a millennium of painful experiences as a result of poor relationship choices.

Some of the ways that relationships can contribute to personal disaster include the neigh sayers, negative people, and people with different aspirations and life direction than yours. If you are a creative person, an innovator, or an entrepreneur, the worst people to hang out with or ask for an opinion about your latest creation or project are the neigh sayers. They will tell you every way it isn’t going to work. Many times they will do it with really good intentions of being the “devil’s advocate.” That’s a great service to call upon prior to the launch of a project, as a final bug check, but during the creative process, that kind of negative support can be disastrous.

Living or working in an environment filled with negative folks, such as depressed people and people with no drive or enthusiasm for life will eventually take its toll on even those with the most positive attitudes. Likewise, living with people whose live goals are fundamentally different from your aspirations, can make getting to your goals way more of a project than it need be. For example, I once had a client who was in the process of starting a new business and was living in a retirement community. With most of his friends retired or actively planning retirement, the topics of most conversations were about their next cruise or golf game and they had very little interest in discussions of his latest business venture. Eventually he found that he was losing focus on his new venture, in favor of thinking about the next game of golf. When he joined a small business organization and joined their social activities, his focus and enthusiasm for his project soared.

Hopefully, you have an appreciation for how important being aware of who is in your relationship environment and to what degree they are supportive of continuing self-development. Part of that awareness needs to be the awareness of who, amongst your relationships, you are tolerating and what is the cost of tolerating them in your life. As with all tolerations, it is important to weigh the positive payoffs of keeping the source of the toleration around vs. the negatives including building resentments for that source. You might have a spouse or relative that is a neigh sayer and yet is a powerfully positive loving part of your life. Once aware of that neigh saying aspect, you could find other folks to bounce new ideas off of. No one person need fulfill all needs in your life. The best way of dealing with tolerations is to get rid of the source or, in this case, recognize that they are who they are and go find other people who are better fitted for the task.

This message and all the subsequent ones on the Environments will be also posted on my blog,  If you have questions or comments, please post them in the comments section. I am looking forward to a lively discussion here on the blog.

If you would like to explore how coaching with me can give you the winning edge to play better and win in all of your life’s endeavors, I offer a free, exploratory session of about 30 minutes. Call me at 323-850-8005 or email me to book a time.

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We will now briefly explore the Financial Environment. This environment includes money, budgeting, investments, earnings, spending and our relationship to the acquisition of wealth.

Although I listed it last, the most important part of the environment has to be our relationship to the acquisition of money. By that I mean, how we value our time and service as well as our attitudes towards acquiring wealth. Is it OK for us culturally to be wealthy? Like most inner mind things, if the answer to this one is that I am unworthy of having more money then I will lack that motivation to aggressively pursue money by not asking for raises or not raising prices.

Other strong influences in this environment are budgeting and investment planning and a good accounting system. Without these in place of with slipshod system, the chance of acquiring wealth to retire on is slim. In the short run, lack of financial management will increase the chances of short run financial drama in the form of late charges on credit cards, higher interests due to late payments and lots of calls we would rather not have.

As with all the environments, it is very good to question what if anything are we tolerating in relation to financial matters. Are we putting up with being paid less that we feel we are worth? Are we working for the money or do we really love our occupations?

There is an old saying, “Money does not bring you happiness, but it sure can make happiness more comfortable!” Paying attention to our financial environment will go a long way towards assuring a comfortably happy life.

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Environments – Part 5 Personal Self Environment

So far in our explorations of the Environments we have looked at the inner mind, the memetic, and the spiritual ones. This week we will look at the personal self environment. This one encompasses all the non-physical attributes of a person, such as personality, strengths and vulnerabilities, and talents.

I find that many of the clients that I work with, especially those who are working on enhancing their self-confidence and self-esteem have never taken the time to accurately inventory all these qualities that make them who they are. There are a lot of limiting beliefs that are associated with a person’s self concept. Many of them come from early childhood where they were teased or harassed about their physical attributes such as their height or lack thereof. It is not until they finally take as unbiased a look at themselves as a whole do can they stare to see where maybe they bought into someone else’s stupid, uninformed biases.

The first mission is to make a list of all the unique talents and strengths that you know you have. Look at your skills, your innate abilities, the qualities of you that others admire and love (if you don’t know, then ask the people closest to you what they admire and love about you). Only when you notice and accept all those attributes that make you the wonderful you that you are, can you fully develop a great self-concept.

As with all of these environments, it is important to become aware of what you are tolerating in your personal self environment. Are there traits that you have that you know are impeding your ability to reach your goals that you are putting up with rather than dealing with them? An example of that might be the habit of never letting others finish what they are saying before you respond which is losing you valuable associates.

When you have thoroughly explored this environment you ought to be able to have a good idea of who you are, know that you are worthy of other people’s love and support and have a good feeling of your potential to succeed in your life.

If you have questions or comments, please post them in the comments section after this post. I am looking forward to a lively discussion here on the blog.

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Environments – part 4 – The Spiritual Environment

The environment we will investigate this week is the spiritual one. My definition of spiritual in this context is a bit broader than usual. I see it as that intangible construct that allows people to make sense out of the unexplainable and unanswerable parts of their lives and their worlds. For many people that involves some degree of belief in a higher power that is labeled in many ways. Along with that belief can be belonging to an organized religious organization that supports and helps strengthen that belief. For others who do not believe in ethereal, higher power explanations, including those who call themselves atheists, they have various ways of explaining the unexplainable that range from “the universe” to scientific theories.

It is very important to work on a personal unifying explanation of, as one author called it, “Why bad things happen to good people.” Without some sort of a spiritual grounding, a person can risk falling into a downward, depressive cycle as a result of unexplainable personal trauma and tragedy. Having the ability to call on the comfort of feeling like they are not alone in the world has assisted lots of people get through troubled times.

For this environment, we need to inventory what we believe to be our version of a spiritual force. How do we nurture that belief? Do we pray, meditate, write, or use other ritual practices to connect with that force? Are we supported by a community of like minded people? Do our spiritual concepts support our ability to be at peace with our lives? Is there anything that is getting in the way of our having a firm connection with that spiritual belief? If so, are we doing anything to change or are we just tolerating it and living in resentments?

When I work with my clients in this area, we explore the above questions so that they will be able to fine tune their sense of spirituality so that regardless of the circumstances they find themselves in, they will have the comfort of knowing that they are supported in their journey through them.

If you have questions or comments, please post them in the comments section after each post. I am looking forward to a lively discussion on-line on the blog.

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Environments – Part 3 – The Memetic Environment

This week we will explore the second environment, the memetic one. This is a very strange word for a very important one. The memetic environment encompasses all the information and information that we are regularly exposed to. All of the media, all our on-line browsing, the cultural messages we grew up with, the newspapers we read, the TV shows and movies we watch, the advertising we see, read and hear, the books we read, all influence the way we perceive our world.  The more we are exposed to the same messages the more they permeate into what our inner mind recognizes as being normal and natural.  When that happens it becomes part of our belief system and when that happens we will operate off of those beliefs without question, even when if we ever did question them we would realize how they we negatively effecting our behavioral choices. In my world we call those beliefs, “limiting beliefs.”

As a life and mentor coach, much of what I do is assist my clients to explore their beliefs to uncover which of those are actually limiting beliefs.  For most people, it really takes someone like me asking those, “Is that really going to achieve the outcomes you desire?” type questions, for them to finally recognize their limiting beliefs.

As with all these environments we are exploring, the overriding reason to study them is to become aware of what they are and how much influence they can have on our lives. Once we are aware we can protect ourselves from their negative influences. With memetic ones, we have to set up filters to screen out negative informational inputs from everything we read, see and hear.  Even without the assistance of a life coach it is possible to uncover many limiting beliefs by questioning how well the things we accept as the way things are, fit into our fundamental core belief system.  We can also explore how well what we believe is congruent with what information we are exposing ourselves to.

If you have questions or comments, please post them in the comments section after each post. I am looking forward to a lively discussion on-line on the blog.

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